I have been pondering this question for some time now. From the day I had an extensive argucussion with my friend Yomi Adegboye, die hard cynic, who believes women do not exactly know what they want.
Yomi believes there is something inherently confusing about women. From the lady that tells you, ‘don’t call me again, we are done’ and then begrudges you for not calling to see if she will change her mind, to the one that says to you: I’m fine, while she is about to blow a brain fuse, women seem to be consistently inconsistent in their display of confusion.
I tend to agree with Yomi mostly, though its only logical that I argue. I mean, accepting what he says seems to amount to cutting off your nose to spite your face. It would seemingly amount to accepting that women, no matter how intelligent they may tend to be, mostly remain at the same point in the creative chain where God told Eve, ‘your craving will be for your husband’.
One dictionary defines ‘craving’ as a ‘great or eager desire. Yearning. An intense desire for some particular thing’. You can then think of a pregnant woman who has a craving for a particular meal. To what extent do you think she would go to get it? I had this friend who smelt a particular kind of cooked rice in the market and went begging for it.
Indeed, a woman’s craving for a man could make her do irrational things including saying what she does not mean or meaning what she does not say.
When women give out these confusing signals, it gives certain men the cue to go ahead and try to push a woman into saying yes after she has said no. And then when he does, she turns around to say he did not respect her feelings.
I am a woman myself and I find this attitude confusing, even when I indulge in it. After being a woman for close to four decades I still do not know for sure what a woman really wants.
I have seen women married to kind hearted men who take them for granted because they say the man is too soft. I have seen women married to wife beaters who will die first before they agree to leave the man. I have seen women who a man provides everything materially possible for and yet they prefer to be with a guy who has nothing to offer. I have seen women who a man is struggling to give the best but they prefer a ready made man.
I guess in the final analysis, you can’t lump all women together and ask them what do women really want. The want changes per woman. More interestingly, it changes per man that she meets…I think.
What do you think?