Monthly Archives: July 2013

I pledge to be Loyal

You may not have heard of US Congressman Myers. He was a Democrat and member of the Pennsylvania House of Representatives. On August 22, 1979, he was involved in the Abscam scandal and was videotaped accepting a bribe of $50,000 from undercover FBI agents. On that tape he stated: Money talks, bullshit walks.

Employees are getting more and more disloyal, like bullshit they walk once ‘money talks’.

I was on a doctor’s appointment recently and asked the doctor consulting about a particular birth control method and he responded “I don’t think they do it here”. I didn’t take the conversation any further because in that one sentence he told me all I wanted to know, about him and about his attitude to the job he was doing. He had the ‘they’ mentality.

The ‘they’ mentality is often exhibited by workers who do not feel they have a stake in the company they work for or in their activities. Most employees with the ‘they’ mentality are not very loyal to the organizations they work for and would be ready to walk away once ‘money talks’.

What though is loyalty?

According to Wikipedia Loyalty is faithfulness or a devotion to a person, country, group, or cause. It is also defined as a strong feeling of support or allegiance. Synonyms of loyalty are: allegiance, fidelity, faithfulness, devotion and faith. In his book,” The Loyalty Effect” Fred Reichheld defines loyalty as the willingness to make an investment or personal sacrifice to strengthen a relationship.

If you are a budding entrepreneur, you may have realized how important it is to have loyal employees around you; people who will stick with you and have your back; people who will not walk because ‘money talks’.

Studies have shown that there is a direct link between employee loyalty and company growth and profitability. Look at it this way: when you have a lower employee turnover then you spend less on training and retraining of new employees. Therefore, you may want to invest in employee loyalty. This article offers some candid advice on how to foster employee loyalty

Yet, in this age where corporates are hanging around ready to poach any readymade human capital, individuals whose business are highly dependent on training manpower have to be careful that they spend more time in the recruitment process. It would be worth all the time and investment to sieve out individuals whose records have shown that they lack the capacity to be loyal. For instance, if a person’s CV reads like he is constantly on the lookout for “greener pastures” hardly spending up to a year in any place of employment then I doubt he would suddenly grow loyalty genes because you hired him.

As an employee, you may want to work on being more loyal by being less openly critical of your bosses. If you see something not going right, wouldn’t it be better to approach your boss in private instead of going on and on about it, whining to everyone ready to listen?

Also, do not be so quick to jump ship because you are offered a higher pay. Money is never everything. There is something I have always believed in that has often worked for me – paying my dues. See every job you take on a training ground. That entails that you have to stay long enough to learn all you need to before you think of moving on.

Even when you have to leave for some further career growth, do not just turn in a resignation. If you have been important to the company, give them enough time to train and get a replacement for you. That is what loyalty entails.

Remember, if you walk because money talks….then you are just, well “bullshit”.

Oh and as for the doctor…on my next appointment I was told he had walked.


Posted by on July 31, 2013 in Entrepreneurship


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GERD, I think I’m having a heart attack!

12.48am, Saturday

The pain woke me. I sat up in bed thinking, “when will this pain end”. For the last couple of weeks, I have been going through pains that feel like hunger pangs. I had ulcer years ago but it disappeared after some time. So I always had milk by my bedside. This time I didn’t have milk, I had chocolates. I took a bite from the the bar and chewed a tablet of antacids and settled back in bed. Early in the week, I had tweeted @theonlyfbk and he had suggested that having my back propped could help with the pains. I did that, shut my eyes and decided to count sheep.

An hour later, the pain was getting more severe. I stood and started pacing and at the same time I decided to Google possible causes of upper abdominal pain. I had been to the hospital a few days before and had been placed on cinetadine, buscopan and gestid. I found something called GERD. And started reading up on it. All the while pacing the room. I made some amazing discoveries. Foremost among which is that I could have set myself up for the pain.

Earlier in the day, I had visited my elder sister. I offered myself a muffin and she offered me creamy chocolate. On my way home, I bought fried rice, between 7 and 8pm I took all these and went to bed by 9pm.

2.00am, Saturday

I could have sworn my heart stopped beating. I felt as if an elephant had just sat on my chest. The crushing weight made it almost impossible for me to breathe. On top of that,  felt like someone was calming rubbng pepper on a sore below my breast. I have a problem with my blood pressure so it was easy to assume I was having a heart attack.

“Calm down Abigail, you can’t be sure”

Again with shaky hands I googled and saw I was having almost all symptoms of a heart attack.

“Don’t panic Abigail. If indeed you are having a heart attack, panic won’t help you”

My step mum was woken and she showed up at about 3am and took my BP it was slightly high but not high enough for a heart attack. She took me with her to observe me till morning.

I had 3 more of those attacks during the night. Each one accompanied by vomitting. Each time I thought, “surely, its killing me this time”

At the crack of dawn, I arrived at the hospital. The doctors said I have severe peptic ulcer. Many people like me have turned up at the hospitals believing they were havng a heart attack but it was a peptic ulcer attack or more appropriately GERD. I think this stands for Gastro Enteritis Reflux Disorder.

I was admitted and placed on treatment.

Right now, I feel a lot better but the doctors have said I have to make some lifestyle changes.

Thinking back, over the past month I had been setting myself up for this, ignoring symptoms.

Another sufferer told me she started feeling pangs of hunger, like if she doesnt eat at that moment, she would die. If you have been following me on Twitter, you would have noticed how often I complain of hunger.

Another thing is I have been going through some depressing moments in my life and had turned to more and more to comfort foods: chocolates, cakes and coke. All these are absolute no no for GERD sufferers.

I have learnt from this experience never to ignore symptoms. If something doesn’t feel right, it probably ain’t right. And of course, in case of emergency, don’t panic, keep a clear head and think.

I remember jokingly asking @Dr_Ayokunle if a heart attack was painful. Now, I can only LOL.

On this hospital bed, I’m thinking of how I am going to live with peptic ulcer. I know I have to break my romance with chocolate. That sucks especially since I had tweeted architecture all Friday partly because of a chocolate cake. Yeah I know, I can’t have my cake and eat it.

I also need to lose weight. So #fitfam here I come.

One thing I can say for sure though: Thank GERD, it wasn’t a heart attack:)      


Posted by on July 7, 2013 in General


I know I Miss You, But I Lied

I have thought about this over and over

Knowing deep in my heart that all I’m thinking could be wrong

Now it occurs to me after all these months and years

Of believing the sad lie, the sad truth wrapped around a lie

Wanting so much to defend it, to live for it, to die with it.


I have thought this over and over again

Mouthing the words, caressing the letters, the shape of it

I tried to say the words three score times or maybe four

See, I have always known this and I thought you knew too

See, did I not tell you that words mean nothing but actions do

You tried, I give that to you

Of all I have come to know you stand out

Unimpressed by my repressed verbosity


But, that little word you so hated

Until we parted

Till the day we parted.


I know someday in this

Lifetime or maybe

In the next

Eternity will be ours

Death defied


Posted by on July 2, 2013 in Poetry