Monthly Archives: June 2013

None Are So Blind

The blind man that sees colours

He sees the colours by faith

Faith resides in the mind

The minds holds thoughts

Thoughts lead to action

Actions speak words

Words are colour to speech.

Speech as a tool for the blind

The blind that see

The blind man that sees colour

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Posted by on June 29, 2013 in Poetry


Journey to Friendship

One day, it was
Just under the bridge
Near Kosofe street
I met him standing
Looking lost to the world
And there I think I found
A friend I’d love in kind.

We started the journey of friendship so true
We walked for one mile or should I say two
And then it became obvious to me and him too
You can’t be friends for too long
If you don’t share much in common
Friendship means common interests
Even if you disagree
You can’t disagree on everything
And still friends be

One day, it was
On a trip to the salon
Along Awolowo way
Close to the bridge
We parted ways
Hoping to meet
To part again

Another day it was
At a conference in Abuja
He spoke animatedly
On a topic we both care for
Finally, I’d found him I said to me
Surely, this is he
The friend I seek

I summoned up courage and walked right up to him
I introduced myself he seemed astounded at my courage
I asked if we could be friends and he seemed more surprised
I like your boldness said he, why not, why not
The journey ended shortly because you see
He felt he was the leader and should teach me to be
A me I didn’t know, I didn’t like, I couldn’t see
You can’t really be friends
If the other can’t see you for you

Another day it was
At a dinner in Abuja
The guests were gathered
He spoke
With pomposity
I rose and took a walk
And never looked back

So what makes a true friend?
What attributes do you seek?
Love, trust, patience, long suffering
Trueness, goodness, mildness, self-control?

Someone who will be there for you?
Someone who understands you?
Someone who listens to you?
Someone who will not judge you?

Keep searching
For as you search you will see
The way to find a true friend
Is to choose one to be

You will be bitten
Once, twice or many thrice
But you must learn to keep walking and working
Till you find that which you are seeking

Because really
If you take time to think of it
A friend is a friend
As long as he stays a friend.


Posted by on June 23, 2013 in Poetry


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Can We Just Be People?

I do not believe there are gay people. People are people. Whatever they prefer to do sexually is their problem. Your sexual orientation is really your business as long as you keep it to yourself.

Since the Senate vote on the  Anti-Gay Bill  the human rights community and others have screamed from the rooftops how insensitive they are and how they are infringing on the rights of ‘gay people’.

I have read blog post after blog post of people who have tried to make a case for the rights of ‘gay people’. One article writer ended by saying he will not encourage people to be gay but he wouldn’t send them to jail either…

Humans change. Societies change and that is why over time people call for constitutional amendments. When the time is right, when the nmajority see it as the right time, whatever changes we want will come to pass.

People are people…and people change

Democracy is all about the will of the majority.

Perhaps in the next couple of years we would have reached the point where we would not mind seeing a man and a man or a woman and a woman holding hands, kissing or making out in public. But as at 2013, the majority of Niigerians say no, this is not what we want.

Until this change happens, will you be sensitive enough of the will of the majority to not remind us constantly that you are different? Can you just be people and not try to be gaypeople? And can you please not use any part of the religious instrument of the Christians to try to support your cause? Can you please just let us live together like people?

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Posted by on June 20, 2013 in General


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I know We Should Break Up…But.

Let’s cut the chase. I mean, you clicked that link because you want to know why people remain in a relationship when it is clear to everyone, and sometimes even themselves that this relationship is bad for them. Try as you may to talk them out of self-destruction, they hold on and even make you look like the enemy for trying to make them walk away from something they want so much.
So why do they do it? Why do people hold on to bad relationships?

Who would I turn to if I leave them?

For most women and even some men there is the constant fear of being alone. That moment when you get into bed at night and all you have is the pillow. Most people would trade a body that is bad to them from time to time for a no body. After all, aren’t we all imperfect and hence inherently evil? Besides no relationship is good and if you leave this one, what guarantee do you have that the one you are moving on to, if you find it, will be any better?

We have the best of times…when I’m not hurting

One thing someone in an abusive relationship hardly lacks is attention. In fact, you will be swimming in attention from your spouse. They give you so much attention and you are their all in all and that makes you feel special. She has eyes only for you. She wants to do everything just the way you want it. He holds you closer each time another male is around. He makes you the center of his world. You feel needed, important. How are you sure you will get that elsewhere?

The moments after

You know what s/he does after every major disagreement/fight? The gifts? The makeup sex? Especially the makeup sex. Isnt it really worth you fighting over and over if they are going to get so nice afterwards?

But I can change them

The only thing constant in life is change, right? So there will surely come to be a time when your partner will realise that their actions and/or inactions is taking a toll on your relationship and they will change. All you have to do is endure for a bit. You can be the hero at the end of this story. So why not hold on to that happily ever after? If you can dream it, you can do it!
It’s my fault

You are the one who made your partner the way they are. Maybe if you don’t keep so many female friends. Maybe if you didn’t have such an amiable personality. Maybe if you stopped doing all the things that cause conflicts.

Let’s face it: if you have invested in a relationship, you don’t just up and go at the first signs of trouble. Human nature suggests that you wait and fight. Fight for the one you love is what they say. So you wait and hope that things will get better and you keep waiting even when you should give up. Breaking it up is not as easy as people make it seem, but sometimes it’s the best thing for you and if you really think about it it’s the best thing for your partner too.

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Posted by on June 7, 2013 in Relationships


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