When Love Becomes Complicated.

27 Jul

Christy has been shortchanged in her marriage. She married Ebube straight out of secondary school. Not that her friends didn’t warn her that she was making the wrong move. But Christy was in love with Ebube, he represented to her everything she didn’t see in her father’s relationship with her mother. Ebube was kind, affectionate and practically worshiped the floor she walked on. All he ever asked back from her was that she should love him back the way he did and always be faithful. That wasn’t going to be hard at all. Ebube worked in an oil company and was ready to give her everything she wanted. Why would she ever think of infidelity? Besides, he had promised that she could finish her education right from his house. What else can a girl ask for?

Fifteen years has passed. Christy now holds a degree in Mass Communication, two kids and a husband she loathes. Even before the euphoria of the honeymoon passed, Christy had felt the weight of Ebube’s fury as she endured beatings for things she often didn’t know anything about. Ebube was constantly on her case, monitoring her every move. Sometimes, he would cease her phone and keep it for the whole day, taking all the calls. If he sensed any foul play which he frequently did, Christy bore the brunt.

Ebube wanted Christy all to himself, literally, so she kept no friends neither was she allowed to work. She was never involved in the decision making process in the house, as Ebube often told her she didn’t have the intellectual capacity to make decisions. Worse still Christy couldn’t complain to her family as they were all blinded by Chris’ generosity and niceties when they were outside the house.

On the 15th year of their marriage, Ebube suffered a major setback as he lost his job. His savings quickly depleted and the kids were on the verge of being thrown out of school. It was at this point that Ebube allowed his wife to take a job.

Christy got a job in client services of an advertising agency. She was very efficient and soon her Executive Director saw the potentials in her and decided to send her on a course that would lead to her heading the department. It was on this course that she met Henry.

Henry was a perfect gentleman. When he first met Christy, he was attracted to her. He was just surviving a heart break and wasn’t exactly looking for ‘rebound guy’. He was more attracted to her intellect and her drive. Throughout the six weeks the training lasted, they shared ideas and worked together on various group projects and then just before they parted, on social night, Henry found that he was in love with Christy.

On her own part, Christy saw Henry’s company as a welcome development. Here was a man who saw her as human. Who genuinely enjoyed her company and who even took time to ask her what she wanted. He believed she had a functioning intellect! Christy fell in love with Henry.

Henry knew Christy was married. And for this reason he fought his feelings for her, but it was like the more he fought, the more he liked her. Three months later, he eventually revealed his feelings to her. Christy admitted fighting the same feelings to no avail. They were both in a complicated love affair.

What should Henry and Christy do?


Posted by on July 27, 2012 in General, Relationships, Sex and Marriage


10 responses to “When Love Becomes Complicated.

  1. Azubbie

    July 28, 2012 at 7:23 am

    Simple. They should wake up from their dreams and go back reality.

    It was all a dream

    • anagail

      July 28, 2012 at 7:32 am

      Thank you for your comment but, I doubt if Christy and Henry were dreaming *smile*

  2. Mark Amaza

    July 28, 2012 at 7:45 am

    It is so sad when the good thing comes at the wrong time. But then, that’s life. Wish I knew how to deal with such

    • anagail

      July 28, 2012 at 7:53 am

      Thank you for your comment. Like Atlantic stars put it: how an something so wrong be so right?!

  3. virtualassists

    July 28, 2012 at 8:14 am

    Christy should sort out Ebube first. Plus is she really in love with Henry or just basking in the euphoria of a healthy attention from a man?

    • anagail

      July 28, 2012 at 8:19 am

      Thank you for this angle. Personally, I believe everyone deserves a stab at relationship happiness. But its important to be sure, that this happiness is really your happiness. Thank you so much for this.

  4. BragginRightz

    July 28, 2012 at 9:50 am

    They should fight off their feelings and get to the real world and remember they have real people they’re responsible for whether they like it or not. We’re NOT Whites, our lives are not solely depended on what we think we feel.

    So here she is, thinking she has found another ‘Mr Perfect’ like she thought she did with Ebuka but turned out wrong and again she may be wrong, what happens if this Henry guy later finds another lady he finds attractive? What happens to Christy?

    What I’m saying is,the mind is a feeble thing. And love, infatuation, attraction, likeness and lust are most times mstaken for one another and are inter-woven. Let’s get this straight, there may not be a ‘happily ever after’ for most of us but there will be alternate versions of that if we work towards it.

    Let’s not forget that Ebuka is a major ass-hole and he needs a Shrink cos he suffers from massive insecurity that arises from massive self esteem issues and should be beaten, jailed or fined for wife battery.. And the Woman , Christy, owes it to her Children to have a family, a 3month charming guy does not equate to a father figure for a life time.

    Let’s be real here people, our hearts lead us astray everytime, let’s use our heads. Thanks.

    • anagail

      July 28, 2012 at 3:46 pm

      Lol. Thank you too. I agree with you, mostly.

  5. olajuwon quadri

    July 28, 2012 at 3:41 pm

    There’s no issue here. Christy shd respect her marriage and not indulge in such acts. Moreso, Ebube never for once cheated on her despite having d resources to do so. No doubt he is unnecessarily jealous, over-possessive and inhumane in some cases. However, that is not an excuse for Christy to cheat on him. Afterall, Ebube used to be like Henry at d inital stage of their relationship as well.

  6. akeemagali

    July 29, 2012 at 5:39 am

    No single marriage is a bed of roses. There are lots of challenges. Ebube & Christy are just one of millions of couples facing this kind of avoidable situation.
    There was nothing glorious in Ebube’s decisions. He actions were absolutely unreasonable.
    By default, Christy’s mind will set out to seek love or tender care that she was deprived of, through Ebube’s stupidity. Therefore she was very vulnerable. Any man would be better than Ebube.
    There was nothing wrong in Henry’s fall ƒor Christy but its not possible to fall in love with a married woman who’s not divorced or widowed. Its all infatuation & lust. There are lots of beautiful single ladies out there, it mustn’t be Christy.
    I think Ebube has learned his lessons the hard way, he could turn a new leaf.
    If Christy thinks otherwise, she should seek divorce & risk another life with Henry & pray harder (the devil she knows is better than the angel she doesn’t).
    Mγ point is clear about Henry, he’s not i̲̅n love with Christy.
    (M̶̲̥̅γ thoughts)


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