To Love someone and then to let them go because you love them, that to me, is the greatest love of all~Abigail Anaba
When Gerald met Ngozi, it was not love at first sight. If anything, Gerald didn’t even like Ngozi. Her name was the first turn off. All the Ngozis he had met were flirtatious in nature. But, Andrew, his childhood friend had convinced him that his cousin was a rare gem and he wanted a rare gem-wife material.
As the first date became second and then third, Gerald realised Andrew was right. Ngozi was the epitome of gentility, very submissive and respectful. She was not over-demanding and she was an excellent cook. They both complemented each other. Gerald wanted Ngozi to be his wife. But no sooner had he proposed than did their tribulations start.
1. Ngozi’s parents were not so rich. They expected their daughter to marry a man who was well-to-do and who could elevate the family’s living standards. Gerald was an Accountant in a small firm. Not what Ngozi’s parents were expecting.
2. Ngozi was from a strong Catholic background and her parents expected that she would marry from The Church. Gerald was a Christian but Pentecostal. There was no way he was switching to make Ngozi’s parents happy.
3. Ngozi was Igbo . Her parents expected her to marry a nice Igbo boy with roots. Gerald was half Yoruba and half Ghanaian. Was he supposed to change his tribe?
Ngozi tried to talk to her parents and make a case for her love but her parents were adamant. Even if they would compromise number 3, 1 and 2 were for her spiritual and physical good. Gerald accused her of not defending their love strong enough and in a short while cracks began to appear in their relationship.
Ngozi loved Gerald but she couldn’t get herself to go against her parents wishes. As a child she had dreamt of a traditional church wedding. She wasn’t ready to give up that dream. Why couldn’t Gerald just become a Catholic just for a while. And then there was the issue of his salary. What he earns is hardly enough. She was not ready for a life of bear-with-me. How could they cope after marriage?
Gerald could not see why any of these were even issues. He was raised by very liberal parents and his policy in life was being content with the basics: sustenance and covering. He had taken out a mortgage on a house. He had a car. He could pay his rent and of course if he and Ngozi worked together they’d be fine. If he and Ngozi stuck together, they didn’t even need her parents blessing.
Gerald and Ngozi were at cross roads. What should they do?
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