Down the Kitchen Drain

04 Apr
How many phrases do you know that has ‘man’ in it? ‘Man enough’, ‘a man’s man’, ‘a man of his own’, ‘a man to man’… You could add a few more to the list. All these phrases seem to add up to the saying, ‘ it’s a man’s world’. But then, it’s also a crazy world. So, following the principles of logical reasoning, men are crazy, right? The things men do…

I had a girlfriend called Cindy. She had it all -beauty, brains and she was at the top. We met on the job. She was a wonderful TV presenter. She had personality and literally millions stayed glued to their TV sets when she presented her daytime TV show. Then she met Mike.


Nice guy. Well paying job. Sleek car. The man! They fell in love and Cindy’s life came crashing down.

Sure, they got married but Cindy had to say ‘bye’ to the tube…One brain down the kitchen drain!

I keep asking myself : Would Cindy have given up her job if she had a choice? But then again, do women have a choice?
Yes!!! Scream the new breed
No!!! Scream the fundamentalists. ‘A woman’s place is the bedroom and the kitchen’.


Well guys, consider this a red alert. You are busy screaming on the rooftops: massive brain drain, think Nigera, proudly Nigeria, while you return to your homes and send the best down the kitchen drain.

You guys seem to think, it’s all about the money. But that is not always the case. Some women work because they feel they have something to contribute to humanity. A woman’s brain may actually turn out to be ‘the brain’ we are seeking to make Nigeria a better place. So, each time you pull a woman off the work force and into the kitchen, rest assured, that is yet another brain down the kitchen drain


Posted by on April 4, 2012 in Woman2man


10 responses to “Down the Kitchen Drain

  1. akeemagali

    May 10, 2012 at 5:59 pm

    Any intelligent woman who reads the marriage contract, and then goes into it, deserves all the consequences.

    • anagail

      May 10, 2012 at 6:02 pm

      You seem to suggest the marriage contract states the woman’s place is the kitchen and the bedroom, are you?

  2. Tunde Mo' Aguda

    May 10, 2012 at 7:44 pm

    On a very sublime note, i think any woman who risks to allow her job to go down the drains because of her hubby or the marriage contract in general deserves kudos but has to very wise and strategic before letting go of her rather promising job.

    Its like a game of chess, you need to be gifted with foresight and ability to see ahead. My wife had to give up her “9 to 5” job shortly after own wedding several years ago, but it was on her own will. We started her own business and her we are many years down the line, happy at least.

    • anagail

      May 11, 2012 at 4:42 am

      Thanks for the comment Tunde. Totally appreciated!

  3. BragginRightz

    May 11, 2012 at 4:51 am

    I personally do not see the need of a woman quitting her passion (career), but I think this particular “struggle” is individual. I think it’s only logical for the woman to ask herself this question :”Is the marital life and prospects good enough for me to quit my career? Will it make me happy? What really makes me happy?”. As much as the women-folk would like to blame the kitchen drain on men they should realise that it’s a matter of personal choice, you do not allow yourself be runover by a man then still blame it on him.

    Anyway, I’ll love to marry a Professional, a woman that went to school to study what she loves and practise it. I won’t let anybody stop me from pursuing my career goals, I won’t stop anybody either (especially my wife).. So there it is, we’re Africans and even we have to evolve with time.


    • anagail

      May 11, 2012 at 5:00 am

      Well we say thank you for the men that have evolved and to those who haven’t: remember it will soon become a case of survival of the fittest and er…you don’t look so fit:). Thanks for the comment Simon!

  4. alpupsy

    May 11, 2012 at 5:29 am

    Change is really constant, for a woman or rather an educated wife to open the tap of her brain and let it pour down the drain, must really have resisted change and should just find a time machine and go back to the dark ages….. Modern women shouldn’t let their male partner’s ego, put a stopper to their career, which most times eclipse the guy’s own. Guys wise up, these babes na helpers oh, we no fit do everything now oh, all alone….

    • anagail

      May 11, 2012 at 5:37 am

      Thanks for the comment sir. Really appreciate it!

  5. @WEEC_NG

    May 12, 2012 at 9:22 am

    Lovely piece, that is why the women empowerment process has to change and be championed by men who want the overall good of the society.
    There are many Cindys out there who don’t even make it to the stage where they can realise a potential because of their psychological disposition and remain unfulfilled. The time to change this is now.
    ff @WEEC_NG and learn more.
    Nice work Anabagail

    • anagail

      May 12, 2012 at 9:44 am

      Thanks for reading. I appreciate


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